Happy weekend!
One of the things I have observed in my marriage is that when both my wife and I are in a situation where our kids are driving us crazy, it creates great opportunity for bonding and growth as a couple.
Some times, I come home from work, and I can tell that she is tired of making decisions with the kids, making food for them, answer their hundreds of questions per minute. And even when I just came back from a long drive home, I choose to help her by releasing her from her present responsibilities. I can take the kids out for a walk, ask her to go upstairs for awhile, or just team up with her to help with the kids' night routine. At other times, after spending hours on a Saturday with the kids, whenever she feels that I am having a short fuse with my kids (as I am not used to spending long, consecutive hours with them on any given day as she does), she takes the kids out of my hands or makes me do something outside of the house to change the scenery.
The point is that even when both would like to just step out of our role as a parent on those stressful moments (2 wrongs), we work together by helping the other person that is feeling the heaviest burden (1 makes it right for the other).
What a great feeling to know that you can count on that friend, that lives with you and loves you, and that can rescue you when your mind is clouded with frustration, high blood pressure, anxiety or just plain exhaustion!
Men, be mindful of opportunities to serve your partner everyday. It pays off greatly!
Have a great weekend my friends!
PEACE!
AL
9.10.2011
9.07.2011
2 SEE is 2 BELIEVE
Hi:
I am back. If you are reading this, WELCOME BACK! Or you can welcome me back, for that matter!
I often need to see to believe. And I think that is how most of us lead our lives. I think that the culture we live in almost forces us to see in order to believe. This assumption is highly supported by commercials promising that the results of a product need no further selling techniques than showing before and after photos.
Ex:
You get the idea.
And then we look at ourselves in the mirror, we look at our relationships, kids, front lawn, checking account, spiritual lives... and no blinking of eyes will ever make it as simple as it looks on TV.
There is an ACTION required in order for something to happen. In order for water to turn to ice, it needs to be subjected to very low temperatures. To turn it to gas, the opposite has to happen. But the common denominator is that some REACTION has to take place, and a REACTION cannot happen without an ACTION taking place.
BELIEVE and you will SEE. ACT, and a REACTION will take place.
Many things have changed in my live (almost all aspects of it, if I can be frank with you!) But it has taken me about 4 years to be where I am now, and I am looking forward to what is next. I have had some stagnant moments, uphill battles and downhill great moments. But I am now exactly where I want to be. And so help me God, I hope I am also exactly where God wants me to be.
These are some suggetions to turn BELIEVING (action) to SEEING (reaction)
Arm yourself with good friends that will encourage you and support you. Find a person that is in good physical shape and follow him. Get yourself in a men's group at a church. Get involved with your neighbors to build community around you. Do random acts of love for your wife or partner to spark your relationship back in gear. Go pick up your kids at School and take them out for some ice-cream. Take some classes at a community college or park district near you to explore something you have never done before. Use your driving time to work and back to listen to books on tape on a topic of personal development that you want to work on. Pray, listen and act.
Trust me, most of this suggestions, I will consider myself to put in practice in the near future. Sometimes I trap myself suggesting things that I find myself not doing, and then I feel that my brain is just calling attention to it to get me to work on them.
What are some things that you guys have done recently that are causing a REACTION in your life or someone else's life?
Peace and have an awesome day!
AL
I am back. If you are reading this, WELCOME BACK! Or you can welcome me back, for that matter!
I often need to see to believe. And I think that is how most of us lead our lives. I think that the culture we live in almost forces us to see in order to believe. This assumption is highly supported by commercials promising that the results of a product need no further selling techniques than showing before and after photos.
Ex:
- This is her before (250lbs) and look at her Today! (125lbs)
- Look at this carpet full of soil and then...BAM! Clean in matters of seconds
- Look at this Chia Pet head, bold as Kojak. And before you know it....Wow!!! Green grass is all over that head!
You get the idea.
And then we look at ourselves in the mirror, we look at our relationships, kids, front lawn, checking account, spiritual lives... and no blinking of eyes will ever make it as simple as it looks on TV.
There is an ACTION required in order for something to happen. In order for water to turn to ice, it needs to be subjected to very low temperatures. To turn it to gas, the opposite has to happen. But the common denominator is that some REACTION has to take place, and a REACTION cannot happen without an ACTION taking place.
BELIEVE and you will SEE. ACT, and a REACTION will take place.
Many things have changed in my live (almost all aspects of it, if I can be frank with you!) But it has taken me about 4 years to be where I am now, and I am looking forward to what is next. I have had some stagnant moments, uphill battles and downhill great moments. But I am now exactly where I want to be. And so help me God, I hope I am also exactly where God wants me to be.
These are some suggetions to turn BELIEVING (action) to SEEING (reaction)
Arm yourself with good friends that will encourage you and support you. Find a person that is in good physical shape and follow him. Get yourself in a men's group at a church. Get involved with your neighbors to build community around you. Do random acts of love for your wife or partner to spark your relationship back in gear. Go pick up your kids at School and take them out for some ice-cream. Take some classes at a community college or park district near you to explore something you have never done before. Use your driving time to work and back to listen to books on tape on a topic of personal development that you want to work on. Pray, listen and act.
Trust me, most of this suggestions, I will consider myself to put in practice in the near future. Sometimes I trap myself suggesting things that I find myself not doing, and then I feel that my brain is just calling attention to it to get me to work on them.
What are some things that you guys have done recently that are causing a REACTION in your life or someone else's life?
Peace and have an awesome day!
AL
9.01.2011
2 LEAD IS 2 LEARN
Hi folks:
Remember that rant about MEDIOCRITY from a previous blog? Let me give you a practical tool that you can use today or tomorrow to start walking away from slumber...LEARN!
I am not assuming that you are not learning, or that you are not educated, or that you are incapable of getting things done with what you already know. But I am suggesting that one of the ways to start to create an environment where you can lead, be a leader, lead your family, your friends, your co-workers, and others is to get your hand on stuff to learn. Pick up a few books, audio books, magazines on a topic or genre that you really enjoy or feel you want to improve on and read....listen... and fill your mind. Just do it!
In this stage of my life, I am starting to have the desire to find out if what I am doing for a living is what I want to spend the rest of my working life doing. So, I took Dave Ramsey's advice and started to read some books on the topic of how to maximize your full potential in your present job, or go do something that you might be better at.
If your present interest is to work on your health, get some material on it. An educated mind will act upon 'that' which the mind is being feed with. If it is to work on your finances, get cracking! There is plenty of material out there for you. If you feel like you need to tap into God's plan, don't wait to have your life all in a straight line, just dive on to the amazing sources that are available to expand your mind and see what God really has for your life. Marriage and parenting are a hassle??? Go to the library and you can swim on a sea of materials on these subjects.
Look in the mirror and ask...What is it that I could presently identify is Mediocre in my life? Pick up some learning material on the subject, get mad, get angry, and knock it out of the park!
That is an order! Do it NOW! :) xoxo
Have a great day tomorrow!
Angel
Remember that rant about MEDIOCRITY from a previous blog? Let me give you a practical tool that you can use today or tomorrow to start walking away from slumber...LEARN!
I am not assuming that you are not learning, or that you are not educated, or that you are incapable of getting things done with what you already know. But I am suggesting that one of the ways to start to create an environment where you can lead, be a leader, lead your family, your friends, your co-workers, and others is to get your hand on stuff to learn. Pick up a few books, audio books, magazines on a topic or genre that you really enjoy or feel you want to improve on and read....listen... and fill your mind. Just do it!
In this stage of my life, I am starting to have the desire to find out if what I am doing for a living is what I want to spend the rest of my working life doing. So, I took Dave Ramsey's advice and started to read some books on the topic of how to maximize your full potential in your present job, or go do something that you might be better at.
If your present interest is to work on your health, get some material on it. An educated mind will act upon 'that' which the mind is being feed with. If it is to work on your finances, get cracking! There is plenty of material out there for you. If you feel like you need to tap into God's plan, don't wait to have your life all in a straight line, just dive on to the amazing sources that are available to expand your mind and see what God really has for your life. Marriage and parenting are a hassle??? Go to the library and you can swim on a sea of materials on these subjects.
Look in the mirror and ask...What is it that I could presently identify is Mediocre in my life? Pick up some learning material on the subject, get mad, get angry, and knock it out of the park!
That is an order! Do it NOW! :) xoxo
Have a great day tomorrow!
Angel
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